You might be thinking, I don't have 20 minutes a day for ME. I say BS. You do, you have to be willing to make yourself a priority. Most women do not make themselves a priority. Just by our biology we were created to give, give, give. To be more specific, we can have baby's.
We can get pregnant, carry a child in our womb growing it from our own flesh and bones, feeding it with our blood. We can keep them alive after they are born with our breasts, nursing them, we are usually the primary caretakers. Now I know that not all women have babies, by choice or health and some men take care of them. The point I am trying to make is, OUR BIOLOGY! Our DNA, our programing in society.
Don't get me wrong. I loved raising children. My children are my best friends. I was and am so grateful for the gift of grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I am blessed to be able to care for them when I have the chance. I am in touch with the fact that my whole life is giving to others. In my personal life and I choose a profession that gives to people. My gift is the gift of love to the people in my life. I would not have it any other way.
The reason I can and do still give is because I can give to MYSELF. I am usually in touch with my own needs, well...usually. I am human. It has taken me years to learn to do this as I did not know I needed to give to myself.
We must be the caretakers of ourselves and our life. In the past, I have taken sabbaticals from work for periods of time. I used to be busy, busy, busy. I learned I can not give endlessly with no respite and self care. For me it took my body giving me the messages (needing different surgeries) because I ignored my inner voice. The universe speaks to us. If we pay no attention time after time we usually get a bang over the head a wake up call having to deal with our health.
Don't ignore yourself. Eventually it will catch up with you. Your body will force you to stop.
Take time to be quiet. Breathe, listen to YOUR inner voice. Nurture yourself, Take a walk, exercise. Plan a few hours a week or month to have just you time. Write in your journal, if you don't have one, get one. Trade care taking children with a friend. Don't lose touch with you. You are the one you will spend the rest of your life with. At the very, very least do conscious breathing several times a day.
Take a deep slow breathe, count to 5 hold it for 5 then exale for 5. It will make a difference. Keep track in your journal and notice how you feel when you do it and for the rest of the day.
If you are a man reading this you might be saying, "what about me?" Yes men also need to honor themselves, but they are usually much better at it then women. Biology...
Blessings and Love on your journey, Malka